How To Cope With Missing Out

Monday, May 25, 2015

'FOMO' or fear of missing out is definitely something I've been feeling quite a bit lately. I remember seeing Lily Melrose create a post about this ages ago and at the moment in my life it just seemed so fitting to give my own personal input and advice on the topic. If you're unaware BeautyCon London came to the UK for the first time this weekend just past and around six of my favourite youtubers that I have watched since forever were all there. I've watched particularly Alisha Marie, Sierra Furtado and Mia Stammer for as long as I can even remember, so as you may have already guessed I wasn't able to attend BeautyCon London and so knowing my top three favourite youtubers from overseas were just two hours away from where I live by train and knowing I couldn't go was a bummer. 

Unfortunately they were announced only around a month before the event they were attending and £200 was pretty steep for me plus the train fare and whatever amount of money I would need for food and such things on the day. It's also so close to all of my exams that it was basically impossible. We all feel left out from things quite often, back when I was 13 as funny as it is now really, I went to my room and cried because I wasn't able to meet One Direction at their Manchester book signing. My mum said they would be back but well.. nope that never happened. During revision season it's very easy to feel left out, around this time of the year a lot of festivals begin to happen and people are getting set to go on their holidays and then there's me stuck in here in rainy old England cooped up in my little office revising. And now I've rambled on enough, here are some tips to help yourself not feel so left out:

1. On the day of the event, avoid social media at all costs - you will only feel worse if you look at pictures trust me!

2. Appreciate the beauty of things around you. I've never been overseas, so the best beach experience I've ever had is a pebbled Welsh coastline but if you look at the photo above you would never guess that was Wales, it may not exactly be Santa Monica but those sunsets will always be Santa Monica to me.

3. There will ALWAYS be other events and better ones at that too. If it isn't meant to be this time then it just isn't meant to be.

4. Re-Create your own version of the event - If your friends aren't attending either then get them all together and re-create your own event. For example an alternative to BeautyCon would be just getting a load of your make-up together and having a little fun with it, you could have plenty of snacks and drinks, watch a load of YouTube videos together and even get each other a little beauty present too. 

5. Write down everything you have planned to look forward to in your life - You will feel so much better thinking about the good of what's to come rather than feel down about one minor event you couldn't attend.

6. Treat yourself - Even if it's just a new mascara from the drugstore, you'll feel 10x better rewarding yourself rather than beating yourself down about not being at the event.

7. Create yourself a bucket list jar - Write down onto slips of paper all of the events and places you want to attend before you die. Fold them and place them into a jar, whichever one you choose focus on that one first, not only will it give you something to look forward to when you eventually make it there but you'll be able to focus on the excitement of the future rather than your current emotional state.

8. Spend the day having fun! - If you're in the awkward and unfortunate position where all of your friends are going and you can't? So what! I'm sure there'll be drama and you'll have a much better time spending your day doing all the things you love. Create a checklist of all of your favourite things you love to spend your time doing. By the end of the day you could have baked a cake, re-read 5 fashion magazines, been on a mini shopping spree and even had a little pamper session and by the end of all that you should be feeling hella fabulous!

So that was just a few little tips to help yourself feel a bit more upbeat when you feel as though you're missing out. Have you missed out on an event recently? Let me know in the comments below, I hope these tips helped you even just a little bit! Until next time..

"Happiness is found when you stop comparing your experiences to other people's"
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  1. Haha, this is really cool! It feels terrible when you're missing out on things but I think knowing that it wasn't out of malice, and it was out of your control makes it a little more easier to cope with. I think number 8 is the best! Just cause you're not there doesn't mean you can't have fun! <3

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  2. It really does but as you say if it couldn't be helped then there's no point feeling bad! Glad you enjoyed the post lovely and absolutely, having fun is the most important thing! xx

  3. I love your end quote. that's what I have a love hate relationship with social media.


  4. Agreed, it's definitely a mixed bag. There's positives and negatives to it but you just have to let the positives outweigh the negatives :)xx

  5. This is sooo true. There are so many things I always feel I miss out on because of lack of funds, or because I'm busy already. Don't worry about it, your time will definitely come!

    Kirsty xx

  6. Absolutely, you never know what the future may hold!xx


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